Ok - here goes, I am starting my story not quite at the beginning - and it is what I mentioned in another post, but it is a good starting point.
I was told for decades that it was my fault I was abused as a child by a scn. I did RPEC and you name it on it but it never resolved....
Here is a what I posted elsewhere on the board today.
I was raised a Scn - married to many times to mention and now uneducated in my mid years - I begin to realise how much Scn stole. My friends, they can no longer have contact (99%) as I'm out ethics as I'm not on lines - I don't even have an SP declare..... ! My perception of self was marred for years by the Scn idea "I pulled it in" I was abused sexually at an early age and was told "you pulled it in" it was not until I got out that I realised I was actually a victim. Don't get me wrong on victim, I am not a victim - I believe each person chooses how they respond to things that happens to them - but do children pull in being sexually abused ?????? I think not.
I hope that others see the light and do not fall prey to the trap I did of thinking - it was me. It was NEVER you ! Scn just wants you to think it is, that way you are more mallable.
Do NOT give them the pleasure ! It IS NOT YOUR FAULT !!!!!