The church can not declare you on the grounds that you tell them your child isn't going to joing the SO.. them targeting underage kids and getting them to sign a contract is illegal in itself I believe.. the contract for sure is null and void.
One friend of mine, her daughter joined the S.O. at 16, they shipped her to LA she was I think from Detriot and the 16 year old called home a week later and told her mom to come get her. The mom got on a plane that day and went and got her child, she had to go through a little hell to get her but did it none the less, no declares just threats... F*&# COS.. they have no right to target our kids or any other children.. it's sickening...and parents NEED TO WAKE UP!!!