Ok I think I've got the hang of this..... thanks for all the tips...
-Brainwashing is such a powerful thing!!!! I can just imagine if anyone told any of us now "not to talk" to someone we would tell them where to "get off"Carmen and Phoebe were ordered not to talk to me, and I was ordered not to talk to them.
-That is the whole problem - we all had the same "mindset" which was to "protect the church" at all costs...I threw in the towel on dealing with the matter. Back then, I didn't have the mindset which would have permitted me to go to outside authorities and tell them that Carmen was being coached to lie. Looking at it now, I could have/should have pulled Phoebe aside and together we could have maybe been able to sort it out, but I didn't.
Don't beat yourself up about it Carmel, its like that old addage, woulda! coulda! shoulda! or the other way around, I forget now...
Bit like "if the dog didn't shop to have a shit, he would have caught the rabbit"
Lets hope that some more people will now have the courage to come forward and tell their story to help put an end to this abuse because now is the time!!!