In addition to Steve Hassan, here are some more resources:
Cult Help and Information - Home
Cult Information Centre UK
FACTNet - There are forums on different cuts and lots of information.
Beware of the scientology owned " Cult awareness Network" aka CAN, obtained from driving the original organization into bankruptcy and buying the rights to the name.
~ Mary McConnell, my nom de plume
Reaching For The Tipping Point A place to keep up on what is being done to expose Scn & it's front groups, like Narconon, CCHR etc to the general public. Lots of up-to-date info. Join us
My Scribd Scn & Narconon Legal Dox
My blogs include:
Formerly Fooled and Finally Free From The Deceptive Cult Called Scientology
Ex-Sea Org Helpline
"...leaving the confines of Scientology is a process, not a single event."
If you are in Sydney, look up Cult Information and Family Services - it is a group of cult survivors and their relatives.
I think you'll find it a welcoming place who will know exactly where you are coming from.
Paul David Schofield
"Scooter" to his friends
If he has no friends and everyone's against him
If he's failed in everything that he has tried
Try to lift his load, help to bear his burden
Let him know that you are walking by his side
And if he feels that all is lost and he is fallen
Try to place that poor man's feet on solid ground
Just remember he's some mother's precious darlin'
Always lift him up and never knock him down
Blind Alfred Reed
Similarly for the other associations.
There is a Scientology process for getting over an old boyfriend/girlfriend that consists of looking around the room or wherever you are and finding things, one after the other, that don't remind you of _____. It might take a long time to find the first one. I imagine a similar thing might be possible if *everything* seems to remind you of your former cult.
3 new Alan C. Walter eBooks now available for free download from PaulsRabbit at http://paulsrabbit.com, in both PDF format and Kindle (MOBI) format. Each has a clickable Table of Contents, and is searchable. (1) The ESMB Posts: 1241 posts from 420 threads, 775 pages. (2) ACW Lightlink Archives: All 130 articles, 400 pages. (3) Kn Dictionary, 121 pages. Also see PaulsRabbit Ebooks thread.
I am sure that it has been said already that a cult is a cult. So Welcome aboard. Believe me when I say that slowly, sanity will return. Actually, it looks like you have regained some of it because you realized that you were in one and you got out. Good for you!
Barbie: to ESMB! I loved reading your post. I also struggled with the intense lonliness and need to 'belong' to some organized group again, after leaving scn. And for a few years, I DID! I attended other mainstream churches and belonged to one of 'em for a couple years). I think a lot of people who've left cults or their group, etc. do this for a little while. And it's part of the whole process, imo.
Personally though, I just couldn't stay on board with the beliefs of most of the mainstream religions out there, so although I feel lonely on that front, I don't subsribe to any one 'full set and purely so' of schools of thoughts/beliefs. I'm kinda a heinz 57 of a bunch of beliefs, lol.
I DID reconnect more with my own family since leaving, and now happily devote myself and 'belong' to them, and I've found ESMB and DO feel less lonely!
Read many stories here. Share more of your own, if you wish. it does help!
The night I escaped Staff:
I get really tired of hearing about how the lower bridge has value. The lower bridge has the sole purpose of getting the PC to reach for more bridge. The fact that many people improved their circumstances as a result of a good intentioned auditor being interested and caring about his PC is not worth the long term and intended result of Scientology technology. GT
Welcome, Barbie. All these posts/comments are wonderful -what can I add? Well, find a therapist well versed in cult recovery - or a group specifically for that purpose. You will form new relationships and bonds - as you will here.
Also, read, read, read. A great book, not scno, but another cult, is "Not Without My Sister". For laughs, try "Life 102, What to Do When Your Guru Sues You". It is funny, but deadly serious . . . You will have to get it used. Sometimes it is cheap, sometimes expensive. Try Amazon, and keep an eye out for it (when it is cheap), or try a library.
Also, there are many books out from Polygamist survivors. I have read a handful, and every one of them was extraordinary.
You are not alone.
Cautious as one crossing thin ice . . .
(LaoTze-TaoDeJing, Chapter 15. 2nd verse . . . )
For Ray - I have not forgotten you, my friend
Or you Scott, this is for you too. I hope you are out.
Kay is out . . .
Welcome barbie, we have been through very similar frightening experiences, so we can help you too, with a shoulder to lean on. Take your time its ok.
Freedom is NOT someone telling you its up to you what you think,
but just letting you look with no rules.
And of course you can hang out around here if you like our flavour because we have no secret agenda to conscript you either and maybe we would benefit from knowing there are others who had to "esape" groups that were not Scientology. Sometimes our own experience can be so real to us that we forget there are others :D
Do you know if they meet regularly? I usually don't go for 'group therapy' but in this case I think it would really help. Already the wonderful responses on this site have really lifted my spirits!