Excellent article from Mike Rinder. It helps understand why scientologists say they are not disconnecting when of course they are. The things they tell themselves to make it ok.
Scientologists still inside the bubble – and especially Sea Org members — are sure they are not disconnecting. They are NOT the cause point of the breaking up of the family. The people they are disconnecting from have ‘abandoned’ them because of their overts. The offender merely has to do steps A to E and all will be well. That the SP will NOT do this is “proof” of how little he or she loves their family. In the bubble-dwellers mind, recanting and doing A-E is a small sacrifice to make to “keep the family together.”
It is a completely warped view. “Disconnection is Love” or perhaps “Escape is Prison” or most accurately “Me Disconnecting is You Abandoning.”