My Final Answer
Here is what happened: When I PM'd ScaredStiff, I mentioned a specific location that I have not mentioned anywhere else. Shortly after that, someone attempted to "out" me at another location, using that exact piece of information! The only way they could have known that tiny piece of info was from that PM. Yes, there is a slight chance that it could have been a "co-incidence". I hope that clears up the mystery.
That person's attempt was full of fail. I would never breach my own security that way.
As far as posting about it, in hind sight I should have dealt with it a different way. I am learning to slow down and really think before I post. I will admit, that has been a challenge for me! The bottom line is, you all are wonderful people and do not deserve to be enturbulated or stirred up in any way and it was not my intent to do so. So, I apologize to you and the mod, who did the right thing in warning me. Everyone who said OSA really doesn't care what goes on here is absolutely right. As I told WO, unless you are publishing a book, doing media or being a witness in a court case, being friends with a plaintiff, or leaking a really juicy inside story, they will likely leave you alone. Otherwise, they will mess with you- like the way they are currently messing with all of BFG's friends. But for those of us who have had personal experience with OSA, we know that there are "watchers", or "babysitters" who keep an eye on things. They are looking to make connections. Who is friends with who, etc. Some of these watchers are people who sit on the fence and fling crap in both directions. Some are doing A to E. Some work deals to avoid declare and disconnection from family members. They know who they are. But y'all don't need to fear these people. They have no real power. They are just wearing a hat that has nothing to do with real life, because they don't have a real life with real friends. Y'all here are just living your lives and gettin' on with things and that's what is important, right? I say carry on, with impunity.
Shwimmelpuckel, I know you can't get an IP from a PM, but there are other ways to out someone. They are still using the software that identifies speech patterns, such as were used to out Caroline Letkeman.
WILS, thank you for your offer and after reading about your phone call to ScaredStiff it, it really does look like she was for real. I don't need to speak to you personally to believe you, but I may take you up on your offer anyway. I checked your site and I've got your info now. Thank you, that was very useful.
So that's it folks. I did not mean to rowl y'all up. You have a wonderful place here and I too want it to stay that way. And I certainly don't want to develop a rep as an A-Hole.
The Anony-Moose