Sindy
Crusader
Re: Receive Scientology marriage counseling from Chaplain who allowed wife to be degr
Hello,
Thank you for this beautiful letter and it is very good to hear from you as I have thought about you many times and have even tried to track you down to no avail. I know you but you may not remember me as it was so long ago when we met. You and Lisa were important and integral persons in my initial journey into Scientology. I remember talking to you in the beginning and your down-to-earth explanations made it seem so wonderful and had it remained what you and I both thought it was, neither of us would be here.
My name, when I knew you, was Sindy Sloan and I was just 23 years old. I had even come to your house to sing backing vocals to one of your songs. You were always fun.
I remember the whole time period of Lisa's recruitment and your eventual divorce. Of course it got spun that your purposes were not as strong as hers, etc., regarding the clearing of the planet.
I remember when you got declared and all the hoopla about that and how that was spun too. I asked about you to OSA. I always wondered what happened and now that I think about it, you are the very first person that I actually knew of who got declared. I thought it sucked. I always liked you.
I agree with you about Lisa. She is a wonderful soul -- beautiful, talented, and betrayed. I, too, hope that she will one day work up the courage to leave. Possibly she will find a way to contact you.
I also remember your daughter. I won't mention any names as you have not done so here but I have thought about her many times and wondered what happened with her too. So now I am seeing that she is still "in", yes? That is so unfortunate and I am terribly sorry that you have had to experience such disconnection. You don't deserve it -- all because you saw through the farce and stood up for what you believed and didn't compromise your integrity. I thank you -- a lot -- for that as though it took many, many years for me to leave after you left, you were one of the people that was a foundation for me, gave me strength to a certain degree.
I also remember your kind brother and his wife. I am assuming that they are no longer in, is this correct?
If you don't wish to answer any of this here, I understand. I am not trying to inappropriately probe for info. I am just so happy to hear from you and have always been so curious.
Again, thanks for coming here. I agree with every word you said regarding Lisa. I hope one day, your friendship with her is rekindled. I hope to hear from her too.
Hello all, I rarely if ever voice comments about my experiences in Scientology, but I noticed this thread mentioning Lisa Hoden and wish to bring a little clarity to it.
Lisa was part of a musical family well known in the Chicago area. The family name is Steele not Frau as some have mentioned. She was married to a Frau for a while before Ken Hoden. I met Lisa while she worked at her Father's recording studio during recording sessions for my then rock band Citizen circa 1979. I fell in Love with her and we worked together on many music projects. Her voice was glorious and her talent immense. Her entire family was gifted and I fell in Love with them as well. We married in a big fat Catholic ceremony on July 17th 1981 and she became Lisa Marier. Regrettably, I had introduced her to Scientology and she took to it with a fervor that was surprising even to me. Her family must despise me, and I can't blame them for that. In any event, she was staff at the Chicago org and was soon recruited out of our marriage with promises of glory singing at Golden Era Studios. Our marriage lasted an official 5 years but much of that time we were purposely separated by 2000 miles while she trained in Los Angeles. A common tale I am sure.
The recruitment was horribly rough and I was publicly humiliated on several occasions by Sea Org for voicing my opinion to that effect. Indeed Scientology breaks up families and destroys lives. But I hold to the premise that we all make our final decisions and Lisa made hers. I have been saddened upon reading of her travails and difficulties which are not out of the norm among others reported here and elsewhere. The Sea Org has had some fine people in it and I fondly recall many who were there to genuinely help others. Unfortunately, their goodness like the blood of a Dracula victim has been sapped by evil men and women. Lisa has been bitten again and again and her decency and good heart betrayed. She remains in my view a tragic life.
I have missed her and cried for months upon losing her to the Sea Org recruitment. I have born a terrible burden knowing that I played an integral part in her involvement and her family's resulting sorrow. I am indeed sorry for having provided the nudge to what became an overwhelming inertia toward the black hole in Hemet.
Within Lisa is an artist. I am not overly optimistic but hope she may one day join the ranks of those who have left and yet have a fulfilled happy life.
I voluntarily resigned my membership in the IAS in a detailed letter citing among other items, Lisa's horrid recruitment. That was 15 years ago. Like many, I found value in Scientology, but have never regretted my leaving the church. I have lost all friends and almost all contact with my 4 children who have one way or the other been forced to disconnect. I can attest to the fact that Disconnection Policy is alive and well in Scientology, but I doubt readers here will require it.
I wish Lisa well knowing that my wishes will have the effect of a water droplet on the Ocean. To all who knew Lisa, we have shared a unique connection to a lovely person. Perhaps she'll find her way. I for one certainly hope that occurs.
Best to all.
Hello,
Thank you for this beautiful letter and it is very good to hear from you as I have thought about you many times and have even tried to track you down to no avail. I know you but you may not remember me as it was so long ago when we met. You and Lisa were important and integral persons in my initial journey into Scientology. I remember talking to you in the beginning and your down-to-earth explanations made it seem so wonderful and had it remained what you and I both thought it was, neither of us would be here.
My name, when I knew you, was Sindy Sloan and I was just 23 years old. I had even come to your house to sing backing vocals to one of your songs. You were always fun.
I remember the whole time period of Lisa's recruitment and your eventual divorce. Of course it got spun that your purposes were not as strong as hers, etc., regarding the clearing of the planet.
I remember when you got declared and all the hoopla about that and how that was spun too. I asked about you to OSA. I always wondered what happened and now that I think about it, you are the very first person that I actually knew of who got declared. I thought it sucked. I always liked you.
I agree with you about Lisa. She is a wonderful soul -- beautiful, talented, and betrayed. I, too, hope that she will one day work up the courage to leave. Possibly she will find a way to contact you.
I also remember your daughter. I won't mention any names as you have not done so here but I have thought about her many times and wondered what happened with her too. So now I am seeing that she is still "in", yes? That is so unfortunate and I am terribly sorry that you have had to experience such disconnection. You don't deserve it -- all because you saw through the farce and stood up for what you believed and didn't compromise your integrity. I thank you -- a lot -- for that as though it took many, many years for me to leave after you left, you were one of the people that was a foundation for me, gave me strength to a certain degree.
I also remember your kind brother and his wife. I am assuming that they are no longer in, is this correct?
If you don't wish to answer any of this here, I understand. I am not trying to inappropriately probe for info. I am just so happy to hear from you and have always been so curious.
Again, thanks for coming here. I agree with every word you said regarding Lisa. I hope one day, your friendship with her is rekindled. I hope to hear from her too.
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