Not sure where to put this, I started writing it in response to Alanzo on his latest thread but thought it is more fitting here since it is very much related to trolling and peoples thought on that.
I don't want to make a thread based on "what I think is good form in writing" or "This is what helped me" either since I feel it isn't much to respond to.
Telling it how it is rather then telling me how to think.
The first critical thing I was exposed to when I started searching on the internet was OCMB, ESMB and Torys youtube channel. The first actual video I think I looked at as I was hiding away in my room was the OT panel, followed by a whoooole bunch of videos made by Tory. I was gobsmacked. Telling it how it was, what had happened to them. Tory in particular and her stories of Scientology mafiadom floored me. Wow, for lack of a better word for it at the time I felt completely keyed out. Unbelievable. This made me look further and deeper down the rabbit hole I went. Ex Scientology kids, the personal stories over here and on OCMB. Again. Totally unbelievable.
Seeing people discussing the "tech" with a critical eye, once again, it was unreal and so frikken refreshing. The only time I felt that it was hostile was over on OCMB were the ridicule felt too strong. I don't mind the ridicule anymore, but to see people who had never even been part of Scientology laugh at it felt wrong at the time. I felt like they were laughing at me, personally.
The people who really influenced me in the past all had one thing in common, rather then focusing on telling me what to think they would share their experiences, tell me what had happened and give me their opinion on it. No one had any positive opinions, that was really clear to me, people could have varying views on the "tech" but that seemed to be something minor in the big scheme of things. Torys videos definitively had the biggest impact on me and I think I got a wee bit of a crush on her back in 2008/2009. she'd sit there saying things like "It's not OK!" and "It's gonna bite you back David!" and I'd sit there just feeling very emotional about it all. Teared up and ready to shout with her. "It's not OK goddammit!" She always had a very strong opinion and I loved it. Same with the peeps posting over here. Strong opinions.
I really think I learnt from the best crowd.
What does this have to do with trolling?
I think that when a person starts a thread with the approach that "I'm going to explain to you why your thinking isn't working for me and how you can do it better" - It upsets people. It is perceived as trolling. EVERYONES alarm bells starts ringing that, there now, we've got one of dem fekkers that thinks he/she can tell
me how to think! Not today! Today is not the day!
The explosion multiplies when good form is ignored.
Hostility ensues. The shit literally flies all the way up to the attic. The kittens fly out the window.
So I suppose it is never a good idea to set a narrative, tell people what to think or how to think, and most importantly, ignore good form.
Then again, isn't that what has taken the western civilization so far already, the actual cultural disagreements? The discourse? Is it not always a good idea to challenge our values? Redefine language? If we didn't I still think women would be toiling in the kitchens and going to the beach would be a downer for shure.
I always felt calling someone a troll, or calling out someone for trolling to be as bad as actual trolling.
At the same time, the thought that I would've joined a new set of cult values - completely disagrees with me. I do however like the fact that I'm being challenged. I just hope I'm able to sustain through the discourse until I feel the satisfaction I so want. One of my flaws of character.
I wish that on the internet, calling someone a troll would be consider as bad as slut shaming someone for wearing a mini skirt. I'm never gonna like being challenged, but I hope to god I'll never troll shame someone again for doing so.