jenni with an eye
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I remember sitting on the stairs out front of the Superior Court, in Boston after it was done. I remember that there were no tears. Instead, there were questions. There was shock, disbelief, numbness, disorientation.
An hour before we had stood next to each other at the copy machine. I was joking with her about something, and watching her laughing, wanting to ask her if this was really what she wanted, or if this was just meeting some requirement for a conditions formula. Wondering if it was too late to tell her that I'd never stopped loving her, and wanting to ask her again if she wouldn't tell me if she still loved me.
I didn't, though. I did what I thought she wanted. I did what I thought would create a legal document specifying my right to see my children on a regular basis. I recoiled from the horror of losing the woman I had always loved, even before I met her.
I remember the judge asking me repeatedly if I knew the rights I was giving up, nearly begging me to get a lawyer before I signed this document, before I allowed him to enact this divorce. I remember the scientology people in the back of the courtroom who were there, I presume, to ensure that there was no real communication between me and my wife, to make sure that she followed through, and that there was no hitch from me. I remember saying I don't as vividly as I remember saying I do.
Sitting on those stairs, I tried to think about the good things this might mean, that I was single again.
No matter what I thought about then, no matter what I think about now, though, there's no replacing the love of your life.
I still don't really know how I lost my wife. I still don't know why she agreed. She never told me she didn't love me any more. I asked. She never told me anything at all, and I still miss her.
I've just seen this for the first time.
This really did bring tears to my eyes.
Thank you for sharing this.