Good twin
Floater
I just think each of us has to make our own decisions and choices based on what we feel is important to us. I know people who are out and still "PR" folks that are in. You may not think they have good reaon, or that it is just intimidation and giving power to the cult. But I say it's not for anyone to judge. Such decisions are often complex.
I had very specific reasons to stay under the radar for the first year or so that I was out. I got through my own barriers and made my own decisions about what I would say and when and to who. I don't regret that. I don't feel I was giving the church power, or maybe I was. But it was a one step at a time approach to gaining my independance.
The reason I felt comfortable telling my story and sharing my evolution as an Ex here on ESMB, was because I felt I could say whatever I want and not be pressured to say or do what someone else decided was the way to go. I love sharing with all of you. I admire each of your journeys and learn from all of them.
But it's important to me to decide for myself and do what I feel good about. Even if I choose to sometimes hang onto my fears and insecurities. Even if I choose to keep walking in the middle of the road or sittin on the fence. Everyone has that right. Not being ready to tell all or face everything is not wrong. For some people it just is.
I sure don't see it as black and white. My experience in the cult was not all bad. It was good and bad and sometimes ugly. Sometimes I feel like talking about it and sometimes I don't. But I sure don't feel obligated. Don't we all have a lot to learn? I sure don't feel good about passing judgement on how anyone processes the cult experience.
I'm no longer an expert on what is sane or rational or appropriate behavior. I gave that up when I left the cult. I see no reason to judge what other exes are doing. I see value in all viewpoints. Thank you all for sharing yours.
I had very specific reasons to stay under the radar for the first year or so that I was out. I got through my own barriers and made my own decisions about what I would say and when and to who. I don't regret that. I don't feel I was giving the church power, or maybe I was. But it was a one step at a time approach to gaining my independance.
The reason I felt comfortable telling my story and sharing my evolution as an Ex here on ESMB, was because I felt I could say whatever I want and not be pressured to say or do what someone else decided was the way to go. I love sharing with all of you. I admire each of your journeys and learn from all of them.
But it's important to me to decide for myself and do what I feel good about. Even if I choose to sometimes hang onto my fears and insecurities. Even if I choose to keep walking in the middle of the road or sittin on the fence. Everyone has that right. Not being ready to tell all or face everything is not wrong. For some people it just is.
I sure don't see it as black and white. My experience in the cult was not all bad. It was good and bad and sometimes ugly. Sometimes I feel like talking about it and sometimes I don't. But I sure don't feel obligated. Don't we all have a lot to learn? I sure don't feel good about passing judgement on how anyone processes the cult experience.
I'm no longer an expert on what is sane or rational or appropriate behavior. I gave that up when I left the cult. I see no reason to judge what other exes are doing. I see value in all viewpoints. Thank you all for sharing yours.