"Pirate and bum" is a cool nick!
If you wish to minimise personal interaction and problems with COS
just be elusive. They ring you up to confirm you for an event, say
"I'm coming." And don't. They wish to reg you, tell a story as to why you can't pay for anything. A true story is quite acceptable.
But needs to be a story a reg can't bust down. If you can be tough and know something of policy ect, be quite overt about not wanting to be harrassed. Its not in
the list of SP actions to refuse to be regged.
They come to the door, don't let them in. Give any old excuse you wish, but politely cut the comm.
I can testify that these all work as I did them for many years. I too didn't
want to hurt these guys. In a sense they are me and I am them.
IMO the last stated action was non optimum. I was puzzled as for years I had been promoting how one can do all including upper levels outside COS.
Really high profile. St Hill didn't seem to know. Even after I told a couple of
call in people about " Tech outside COS", and the Freezone, still got call in.
Till DM did an event at St Hill. Then I got called by a sweet E/O and deadfiled.
In a broader view, if you still wish to follow the tech, you may wish to let people know they can do it outside the auspices of DM and COS. And much
cheaper! And with less hassle!
It may speed up a declare or something, but so what.
You got close family and friends in, the stealth route may be best.
Otherwise, just try to help your friends escape would be good.
Your call.